Yoga & Marriage
By Cynthia Latimer

If you picked up this magazine, chances are you have already chosen to allow someone into your life, while letting go of part of your old life in order to create a wonderful new one together.

In this way, marriage and yoga are a lot alike. After all, yoga is Sanskrit for “union” or “yoke”. (Sanskrit is an ancient language that is the classical language of India and of Hinduism). And just as we hope to find our best selves come alive in a great marriage, “through yoga it is said that one may gradually be united with something higher, more subtle, more universal, and more profound than we find in everyday consciousness-the pure nature of the self.” (Yoga Mastering the Basics)

Both marriage and yoga require letting go. When we step onto a yoga mat, we lose the parts of ourselves that we no longer need: the old habits, the tightness in our hips, the self-criticism, and the dependence on external factors for happiness.

The same thing happens when we step into a lasting relationship. We let go of our ego-the part of ourselves that has kept us an individual in order to make space for a companion who will assist us in our life’s journey.

In order to be successful, a marriage must have balance, which is also a fundamental part of yoga. When we do the physical practice of yoga, Hatha yoga, we are joining the body, breath, and mind. Hatha, “ha” meaning sun and “tha” meaning moon, is the balance of opposing forces. The union of these forces is what keeps the world spinning. These female and male energies are present in everything: the moon and sun, light and dark, hot and cold, tranquility and liveliness, love and hate. In the union of marriage, these opposing forces are what keeps the balance. Each partner plays an integral role in maintaining equilibrium. Where one partner may lack, the other gives the energy to facilitate growth.

Just as a loving relationship deepens over time, so can a yoga practice. You may take up yoga and deal with some pain, ailment, or stress. Maybe you are looking to get physically toned, build strength, or become more flexible. And yes, it’s true, yoga does all these things!

But if you look to yoga only on a superficial level that is all you will walk away with-a toned mid-section - when yoga, like a relationship, can be so much more. When we consciously make a choice to transform and open our minds and hearts to the beauty we already possess, we not only cure our chronic back pain but we find within us the strength to heal wounds on a much deeper level. We find a sense of peace that we have long been searching for, and we realize the beauty that the opposing forces of nature bring together.

This is exactly what happens when a conscious choice is made to allow a long-lasting relationship into your life. We invite the soul that is truly going to help us grow. We honor our own beauty and yet let the ego go in order to become one with the opposing energy that will make our path together long, loving, and truly happy. Gradually, we realize that we are united with something higher, more subtle, more universal, and more profound that what we find in everyday consciousness - the pure nature of love.

Although the wedding day is one of the happiest in a couple’s time together, the weeks and months leading up to this day can be stressful. The benefits of adding yoga to your daily life are innumerable. Yoga balances, tones and strengthens both the mind and body, leaving you feeling energized and focused.

Cynthia Latimer is a certified yoga instructor and teacher. She has had training with both the Himalayan Institute in Honesdale, Pennsylvania and Moksha Yoga Center in Chicago. The combination of the two training institutes has given her a vast array of knowledge in the ancient teachings of yoga, anatomy, and yoga therapy and has allowed her to study with teachers from all over the world.

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